After a long week of work and working on a Saturday, what did I do with my one day off? I cleaned, did laundry, folded and reorganized J's closet, did dishes, and cooked dinner for me and J. Yes, I used my day off to be a house wife, I even wore my pearls, and I enjoyed it.
I like cooking, so that was no chore at all. I don't think anyone out there loves cleaning and laundry but they do like the results, so overall getting our clutter under control and putting clothes away was satisfying over all. I like bringing order back to my house after a week or more of letting things slide in the name of relaxation and fun. It feels good, you feel in control of your universe even if it is just your house. What really made it worth it was sharing the fruits of my labor with love who came home after a long frustrating day to enjoy the dinner I made and the order I created in our home.
I don't think people realize that in a relationship, it's important to be an each other's island of peace even if all that means is cleaning up and making it easier to find stuff around the house. Being a good house wife or husband, really does make a difference in sustaining your relationship. It keeps you all calm, shows you appreciate what the other goes through all day long, and makes you stronger as a couple. When I have a long day at work and I come home to a made bed, dishes done, it really does make me feel better. I come home and think wow now I can relax. I do the same for my love too and I know he feels loved.
Obviously this doesn't mean you can't talk about tough topics or gripe at each other, believe me we do it all the time. Just think before you do so, pick the right time. No one gets anywhere with anyone if you ask at the wrong time, if someone is already wound up and mad making them angrier is just not smart.
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